BEL 462: READING & CRITICAL THINKING SKILLS

"The important thing is not to stop questioning." – Albert Einstein

Topic of a passage

October 12, 2011 by Rin · 3 Comments · Farena

Is He Really Right For You?

By Karen Sherman from ThirdAge.c

Most women would prefer to be part of a couple. It’s often hard to meet someone new, and even more difficult to know whether the person you get involved with will be the right one.

No one is perfect, but there are certain signs that can help you make a sound decision. Though relationships are emotionally driven, thinking clearly will help you assess if a guy is right for you.

1. Do the two of you share the same beliefs? Your values will determine how your lives and time are shared. Though you don’t have to agree on everything, the more there’s alignment in your core beliefs, the easier life will be.

2. How does he handle disagreements? Couples have conflicts. What’s important is how he manages the dispute. Is he respectful vs. shutting down or not addressing the issue? A good relationship entails each partner feeling heard and meeting the other person’s needs.

3. How does he act with others? You can tell a great deal by how he behaves. Is he respectful rather than arrogant or judgmental? Even more meaningful is the manner in which he treats significant people like his mother or sister; they serve as good indicators of how he deals with those close to him.

4. How does he treat you in front of others? It is crucial that you don’t take a backseat but are seen as someone who is important.

5. What is your private time like? Though publicly, he may function one way, is he consistent when the two of you are alone? Though you don’t have to spend every waking moment together, you want to feel valued rather than an intrusion upon him.

6. Do you get a sense that what you think and feel matters? Though he might not necessarily agree with you, does he listen and respect your opinions, viewpoints, and feelings?

7. Does he act responsibly? Is he able to manage his money matters in a reasonable way? Does he follow through on what he tells you?

I’m a true believer that everything you want to know about someone is evident initially, if you really pay attention and don’t merely respond on emotions. If you need some objectivity, ask a trusted friend. If the overall picture looks good, take the plunge. Remember, they say love can be lovelier the second time around!

 

Topic is : SEVEN “COUPLE THINGS” TO BE KNOWN

TECHNIQUE:by the title itself, it tells me that author wants to talk about criteria of a good partner and to confirm whether the present boyfriend is the right for you or not.

As I read the whole paragraph, my assumption slightly changed. Because things that the author wants to highlight is about the things that women should aware of when it comes to partner matter.

The author clearly mention the 7 things by making the sentence “bolded ” which guide us to read  the most important part of the passage.the author intention is to emphasize on the points that he or she gave.

3 Comments so far ↓

  • nellyj

    hello Rin…
    Nice article!!hehehe i love to read this one…
    Anyway, i do agree about your topic that “seven “couple things” to be known’… and if i add “by the women” in the end,is it possible??…because after we read about this passage its more to 7 couple things is been mention especially for the women..^^

  • Rin

    nelly:hmm..yeah…i think it could be 7 couple things to be known by women…cos its describe the whole passage..and the topic also focus more to women readerr.

  • tracy90

    el0w~ rin…
    hehe…i thought that this article is about “7 things women should know about their partners”…huhu…or is it more or less the same?? hmmm…

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